Yesterday was easily one of the toughest days I’ve had to bear for quite some time.
It was 2 years ago yesterday that my life and my whole world view changed.
Life as I knew it just stopped.
The days and weeks that followed were some of the toughest I’ve had to endure, and indeed much tougher than they should have been.
I’m not going to talk about all of that just yet, but yesterday, I had to write it all down, all the details, all the things that happened during that period.
It was exhausting, challenging, painful.
Doing that was something I’d been putting off for a while, I knew I had to do it, I had all the notes and bits and bobs, but putting it all together was this big old black cloud hanging over me. I just didn’t want to do it. I had tried several times to sit down and just write it, but the thought of it was just too much.
I procrastinated. I’m a master procrastinator. I’ll find anything and everything else possible to do except for the difficult thing that has to be done.
There’s a motivational quote thingywhatsit, often attributed to Mark Twain, that if it’s your job to eat a frog, then eat it first thing in the morning, and if you have several frogs to eat, then start with the biggest – so start with the big horrible thing first then the day can only get better. I’m the person who will line up all the frogs, give them names, arrange them by colour as well as size, clean them off, give them wee pedestals to sit on, all to avoid eating them.
Yesterday, I really had no choice but to eat that big fat ugly slimey squirming frog, which to be quite honest with you, was making it’s best attempts at escaping.
I did what any Christian woman in my shoes would do next. I opened my bible (or more specifically, I googled for bible quotes for strength and motivation, then opened my bible to those…) and of course came upon Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Now this is where those of you who know me, but don’t know this side of me so much will think I’ve properly lost the plot, but stick with me….) and the wee TV screen inside my head gave me a wee cartoon video clip of David and Goliath, and the narrator (let’s call him God) said “I slew Goliath, David only had to throw a stone, and that’s a really easy thing to do for most people…Emer, you just have to throw a stone and ask me to do the rest, I’ve got this!”
So, suitably chastised, I did as I was told. Then I sent out a prayer request to a bunch of people who I know do the prayer thing, because, you know, the more people harassing the big G on my behalf the better, right?
Then the voice told me off again for procrastinating some more, David still had to get up and throw the stone!
It occurs to me, that so often we build things up in our heads, we sit and dwell on them, we shout and scream about how hard the thing is, but very often don’t ask for help, and never actually take the steps that are required.
When you get into it, what you’ve got to do is usually very simple, like throwing a stone…but we make build things up and put them off and let the stress of the task and the fact that we’ve not done it just build and grow and become this huge big thing that it doesn’t need to be.
Some times, it’s really freaking tough, emotionally draining, or even physically challenging, it might scare the living bejeekers out of us, but ultimately, what are we afraid of? What’s so difficult about typing some words?
When all was done, it was a weight lifted off my shoulders. The sense of relief that it’s out of the way now can’t be understated. I was on cloud 9!
So inspired by my morning chat with big G, I applied the same logic to my whole social media endeavour, my FB, my Instagram, Twitter, and this blog.
It’s something I’ve wanted to do for quite some time now, but never quite got around to doing.
There was always some reason not to do it, some fear, some niggling doubt, something else that needed to be done.
I’m a big believer in re-framing and finding the silver linings and the sparks of joy (do you see how I got the site name?) in everything possible. So yesterday, yesterday was Day 1 for my new social media adventure. It is no longer the anniversary of that thing and is now the anniversary of Emer Frances – Online and chatty!
What are the things that you’re putting off?
What are the dreams you’re procrastinating on?
What are the fears and worries that you’re letting build up inside your head into a monster and stopping you from achieving the things you need to achieve?
What tips do you have for getting things done?
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!
Get out there and do something, anything, just take a step towards the goal and then take another step, then another and soon, you’ll be living your dream!
I can do all things…you can do all things…